Inside the Rainbow: Life as Equals in Every Way

1 January 1970

Lotte and Lia-Belle have built a life grounded in intention, connection, and quiet magic. As partners in parenting, business, and life, they move side by side, sharing not just responsibilities, but the emotional rhythms that make a home feel whole. In this heartfelt glimpse into their family life, they show us what it means to grow together with grace, joy, and deep mutual care, turning the everyday into something extraordinary.

How would you describe each other?

Lotte: Lia is a graceful force – strong yet fluid in the way she moves through life as a woman, mother, and wife. She holds each of these roles with deep intention, always striving to evolve through what she reads, studies, creates, and pursues. With a sharp, ever-curious mind, she brings depth and beauty to everything she touches, instinctively weaving meaning and ritual into daily life. She has a way of making the ordinary feel sacred, turning life’s simple moments into something intentional, beautiful, and full of quiet magic.

Lia-Belle: Lotte is fun. She embraces early mornings, fire pits in winter, and paddleboarding in summer. She brings me outside to feel the full seasonal experience of the world around me. Our children gravitate to her playfulness, and she teaches all of us to be our most authentic, grounded and joyful selves.

How do you lift each other up in better or worse times?

Lotte: I think I’ve always been a place of calm when the seas feel rocky for Lia. Rather than lifting, I believe I ground her – bringing her out of her head and into her heart, curating a greater stillness.

Lia-Belle: I think it’s important to remind each other that bumps in the road are a normal, natural part of being a human being and that the hardest things offer the most growth. And just believe in the good in each other along the way. Just back each other and keep the love flowing.

“I think it’s important to remind each other that bumps in the road are a normal, natural part of being a human being and that the hardest things offer the most growth.”

How have you approached parenting as equals, and what everyday actions help maintain that balance?

Lotte & Lia-Belle: As a queer family, parenting has always been about rewriting the script on our own terms. We’ve both had the privilege of carrying and birthing a child, which allowed us to rethink traditional roles from the start. For us, parenting isn’t about fitting into gendered expectations, it’s about balance, fluidity, and supporting each other as equals.

Our roles constantly evolve depending on what’s needed in any given moment, and we’re constantly reflecting and evolving to stay connected. We want our children to grow up seeing that there are no assigned tasks – both of us work, care, cook, clean. Sharing the load, visibly and invisibly, is part of how we model equality. By modeling this, we hope our children will grow up expecting shared responsibility and partnership in their own relationships.

“Parenting for us isn't about fitting into rigid gender-defined roles – it’s about finding balance, leaning into what feels right, and supporting each other as equals.”

What advice would you give to couples who want to move toward a more balanced and equal dynamic but don’t know where to start?

Lotte: Creating a more balanced and equal dynamic begins with a shared willingness to pause, reflect, and listen. Start by writing down what’s feeling heavy, where you need more support, and what helps you feel like your full self. Then come together, share, swap, and listen with openness. From there, co-create a weekly rhythm that feels supportive rather than overwhelming.

True balance isn’t about splitting things 50/50 – it’s about understanding each other’s capacities, checking in often, and staying flexible. Share the emotional and mental load, not just the physical tasks.

Celebrate the wins, forgive the messes, and keep growing together. Even the smallest acts – making coffee, folding laundry – can carry love when done with intention and partnership. Equality becomes not just a goal, but a feeling you both get to live inside.

Lia-Belle: I’d start by identifying to yourself, and your partner, what an ideal dynamic looks like. Taking into consideration household duties, financial contribution, mental & physical load carrying, etc. Just because one partner works doesn’t mean they’re excused from cleaning the bathroom. From 9–5 (or whatever time) one parent works, one parent parents, the rest is shared.

Prioritising and providing space for each other to recalibrate and knowing when each other is struggling without them having to say they are struggling is the difference between someone feeling happy and fulfilled in their relationship and not. By stepping up even when you’re tired and putting toothpaste on your partner's toothbrush just so they don’t have to do it.

“Celebrate the wins, forgive the messes, and keep growing together.”

Do you have any seemingly ordinary, everyday moments with your children or as a family that feel extra meaningful?

Lotte: Some of our most cherished moments are the ones that appear small but are filled with heart and intention. We honour the changing seasons with rituals – lighting fires, foraging from our local river, bike rides to the sea along the nature trail, always collecting so that we can decorate with natural elements – as a way to mark time and celebrate the beauty of nature. We regularly cleanse our space with incense, crystals, or by rearranging furniture, creating a home that feels calm and cared for. Friday nights are sacred – our family all piles into one bed. It’s not always restful, but it’s something we all look forward to, the closeness it creates. And Sunday mornings – pancakes, Crowded House playing, always dancing, and the morning light hitting our faces. These rhythms remind us of who we are and keep us connected to what truly matters.

“Some of our most cherished moments are the ones that appear small but are filled with heart and intention.”

What do you hope your children – or your future selves – remember most about these everyday moments?

Lotte & Lia-Belle: We hope we all remember the warmth and love in the small things – the way we made time for each other, even when life was full. We want our kids to feel how deeply we cared to make the ordinary extraordinary – and that, in the end, it was the time spent together that mattered most. The love and connection we nurtured in those everyday moments, and the sense of togetherness that grew within our home and spirit.